my go at the konmari method

With much reluctance and hesitation I started the renowned book "The life changing-magic of tidying up." And as part of my duty to my reader(s?), I thought I'd inform you on just how life changing it really is (or lack thereof if you name is Emily Gardner).

Marie Kondo, who? The Japenese author and tidying extraordinaire is an organizer consultant who takes her job very, very seriously. Like a mom on steroids, but she isn't a mom. Anyways...

She prides in teaching clutter-holics how to simplify their life by decluttering anything that doesn't bring you joy. Marie explains that your house/things is a reflection of your life. (Dang it). It seems like a really nice system right? Until you actually start doing it. And I got be honest, half the time I was reading it, I was more curious as to how much the consultants were paying for the tidying-goddess to come into their house, than the actual principles and outcomes.

But I swear, I learned a thing a two about what Kondo insists you do from the KonMari Method:

- Tidying in one fell swoop. So basically do it all at once. Gradual tidying over a period of time won't do anything. Sounds ideal for someone that works full time, I guess just work and tidy, but don't sleep, eat, or do anything until you finish.

- Pull everything out (clothes from your closet, books from your shelf, and bathroom supplies) and PURGE basically until you don't have anything left. Okay, not quite that drastic, but before you can truly tidy, you have to get rid of everything that doesn't spark joy.

- Sort by category and not location. She claims this is one major mistake made by so many people (thats me!). Make sure you take all your clothes out of your closet, look at them one by one, bring them up to your chest, thank them for their job well done, and put in the discard pile. Next, brush your hand across every book title, does it still spark joy, good then you can keep it. (you'd have to shake heaven and earth for me to do that).

- You can't let your family see what you're doing.

So in summary, basically the first step is to purge of everything you own, and then figure how to organize the lucky ones that remained.

For optimum success, Marie says first start with your clothes (people are less sentimental with clothes), then books, all your papers, then komodo (which is like the rest of your junk), and then momentos. Marie fully believes that once you've reached this point in the process you will be disconnected emotionally and will more likely be able to discard momentos with more ease.

Now, while I can't get myself to do any of the cheesy talking to my clothes and books stuff -- I really did want to get rid of "stuff". And the fact that it took me a good three months (I told you I was reluctant) to read it, I'm sure that is a pretty accurate indication of how my tidying up is going.

My mom read this and lived the law (she's good at being exact), and the house is immaculate. It is awesome, the kitchen is insanely beautiful 24/7. But when you are me, 23, and live with a guy who isn't so Team Kondo then we execute the KonMari method differently.

My one big beef about this method/her/I don't know -- is that each day she reorganizes her purse, and is absolutely perfect about putting her clothes away -- but thats because she doesn't have kids and doesn't have a spouse. If she had both of those (and i'm not judging her that she doesn't), but if she did, then I really would be bowing down to her. Its just not the same. I guess that is my tiny self-validation on why i'm not perfect at this method.

I broke a few of her rules, and my focus was clothes, clothes, clothes, books, bathroom, and clothes again. I didn't take everything out from my closet, but was careful about going through each item. It was awesome. Between Bronson and I (and by that I mean, I held things up in the air for Bronson to give the approving "yes" or "no" to things I could get rid of from his pile), we filled two garbage bags. And I felt like I had so much room to breath. The shelves in our closet were white again with space! It's like I wasn't ashamed to leave the closet doors open. But, yet, some time has past, and it seems like we are back to where we were before I "attempted" the KonMari method. Awesome.

I finally just tackled the bathroom. I felt okay about getting rid of a few things, and separating what I was going to donate. After 4 years, I'm finally able to part with the brand new necklace that I've never worn (tip to any readers that give me gifts, don't give me jewelry i guess ;) And I'm finally throwing away the bracelet I wore on our wedding day, since it broke 2 days later. Thank goodness bracelets aren't metaphorically symbolic of relationships like diamonds are. phew.

I'm itching to go through the boxes we have in storage -- but I have to remember those are momentos and I have to save that for last. When I had to go through my old clothes after my mission, my motto was, "If I forgot I even had it, then it's worth getting rid of." So I might just have to try that again.

According to myself, I believe I succeeded because I read the book and did something, but according to homegirl Marie, I failed. Whatevs.

Overall, I liked the book, I think it teaches sound principles of managing a house more efficiently, that I wish I was better about. #Workingonit I think as people we tend to have problems prying our cold dead fingers off objects that we have around the house -- just because -- but don't really spark joy. And then once we tidy up and surround ourselves with things that spark joy -- we will be happier too. KonMari guaranteed.

*image from google. 


  1. You rock! However, when you get to the momentos that I passed along, (baby clothes, scrapbooks, in that tote-stuff) and you don't feel joy when you bring it to your heart, please return it to me...I went through 9 months of pregnancy, 27 hours of hard labor, and 23 years of being Mom, and I just can't part with it yet. ;) Keep on organizing! :)

  2. Hahaha! You crack me up! I don't follow it completely but I kind of feel you have to do what works for you the best. I love her ideas. My favorite idea was how she viewed things. I always feel guilty giving something up I never work or used but I love her logic that we still learned from it even if it's we learned we don't like that style.


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